Monday, September 21, 2015

Why I refuse to have Black friends!



I am white.
I am southern.
I am conservative.
I am Christian.
I live in South Carolina.
My great great grandad served in the Civil war for the Confederacy.

I stand before you today saying that I am proud that I do not have any black friends. I'm also so proud that I don't have any white friends. Oh sure I have friends. I have a friend named Robert who is black, but he's not my black friend. I have a friend named Trent who is Irish American, but he's not my Irish buddy. My friend Michelle is a full blooded Cherokee, but he's not my Native American friend. My friend Desi is Caucasian as they come, but he is not my white friend. My neighbors are from Colombia, but they are not my South American friends.

No, they are ALL just my friends.

Not my black, white, red, yellow or any other colored friends.......just MY friends.  Despite the slant this whacked out PC world tries to SPIN it. I am from South Carolina and I ONLY HAVE FRIENDS.


I wouldn't want it any other way.



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61 comments:

  1. Amen Chris. This country is on the verge of spilling its ignorance all over its streets as some try to live vicariously through the negative experiences, or their limited interpretation of them, of others. All it takes is for good and reasonable people to stand by and do nothing. And it might make for a good reality show until it spills over onto you and your families front lawn. I so look forward to Jesus return.....

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    1. Chris, great outlook on life and friendship. Every mans blood is the same color and we have the same creator! Thank God! I had to share this!

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    2. Although if Jesus or god really did exist this would not be happening.

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    4. @ Army OCS08:

      Well, I use to think that way as well, but then I actually read the Bible, I understood that He (God/Jesus) does exist and He explains why what's happening in this world is happening in spite of the fact that He exists (Read Romans 3:10-23 & Romans 5:12). . . . Then I read how He has provided THE WAY to overcome all of it (Read John 14:6) . . . That was 36 years ago and my life not only radically changed, but it changed direction as well . . .

      Listen to my life story here: https://unshackled.org/program/cork-hutson-pt-1/
      and here: https://unshackled.org/program/cork-hutson-pt-2/

      May the Lord bless you as he did me!

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  2. Admirable worldview, but has nothing to do with political correctness.

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    1. Thanks for your comments Peter.

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    3. Peter, who said that was his aim here? You? Are you somebody's wife? Leave this great blog for what it is, a great blog.

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    4. S.Q - The author Chris Wells intimated labeling friends by skin color is PC - Politically Correct. He stated he "only [has] friends," "[d]espite the slant this whacked out PC world tries to SPIN it." Accordingly, Wells is unequivocally attributing labeling friends by skin color or ethnicity as a product of being PC. Franzi's point is not only appropriate it is well taken, as labeling friends by their skin color or ethnic identity was started long before being PC came into existence.

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    5. Peter Franzi, no, this way of thinking doesn't have anything to do with political correctness, but it has everything to do with Christian values. We are instructed by the Son of God to "Do unto others as we would have them do unto us." In my heart I believe if everyone in this country would come back to this one way of living life each day, the majority of our country's problems would be solved.

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    6. I agree that it has nothing to do with PC...I define PC as just being a decent human being who tries not to offend others whenever possible. Thus, I don't use certain terms...volutarily...because I'm a decent human being who cares about other people.

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  3. Great write up, too bad the author paralled it with political correctness (PC), bc it takes the focus to a different direction which is not his point. He would be good to revise that.

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    1. Thanks for your comments. I do see it as PC.

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  4. Seriously!!

    You only got PC out this story? I knew what he meant and I am sure you did too but you can only complain about his choice of 2 initials. SMH!!!

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    1. We got exactly what he meant out of those 2 letters and it was very very bad

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  5. Fair enough. But would you agree that, for example, you will never truly know your Native American friend unless you acknowledge the struggles that they face as a Native American? The struggles that their ancestors faced that affect their own world-view? I'm not talking about apologizing for that history, I'm only suggesting that your world-view assumes that race is not a factor in the lives of your friends, when it quite possibly is a factor for your non-white friends. Could you, for example, begin to understand why your Native American friend is rather angry that his President, and yours, has a certain affection for Andrew Jackson, the man primarily responsible for the Indian Removal Act (which initiated the Trail of Tears). I mean no disrespect, but just some honest "food for thought" here.. I think that the world-view that you espouse, though very well-meaning, may be turning a blind eye to the history that your non-white friends are simply unable to ignore with such ease.

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    1. You say non white friends as if white people have never suffered. There were Irish slaves, Jewish slaves, British slaves, Italian slaves. What happened to your great grandfather has nothing to do with the person you are and it doesn't affect you at all. Now if the color of your skin affects you in your life time, then sure, that is relavent in your relationship.

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    2. There is a lot of diarrhea of the keyboard here. People, please think before you pen.

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    3. Don, how can you assume he knows nothing about history? Stop the diarrhea.

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    4. You know, I don't remember ever asking my friends as a child, what struggles their "people" had faced. We just became friends because we liked each other.

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    5. People who write TL;DR are the biggest problem. Read more and improve your attention span. It will benefit you and society at large.

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  6. Don, I don't need to know the struggles of my friends. Race related or other. They are friends. In other words we bond over a common interest. If my friend wants to share their struggles then I will listen and not judge.

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  7. Love this and well said Chris! May I please quote your middle paragraph...as I am Barbadian and I have friends!

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  8. Wow, this was a heartwarming and pleasant surprise. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  9. Thank you so much- what a timely msg! Especially now- Aug. 2017!! The world is as twisted up and chaotic - like madmen! Defacing statues, twisting history, it's all gone mad! I do pray this msg is spread far & wide! Love <3

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  10. SO... The headline caught my eye and made me not want to read the post. But I was curious as to why someone would feel this way. What experience did you have. So I began to read and was pleasantly surprised. I too have several friends, none better or worse than the next. They are from all walks of life, religion, color and cultural background. I was a Home Builder for many years, and worked for a variety of people. As long as treatment and respect was flowing both ways, I had no problems. I will say that one time, when one of my workers was confronted by a rude, racist, obviously ignorant, customer, and held his composure. I was impressed. When I questioned the quality of my employee's work, he stated; "OH!,it's not that, I just don't want his kind stinkin up his place"....REALLY? (I was only doing trim work there and had really just gotten started. So I only had a couple hundred dollars invested in the job.) I turned to the guys, made a slicing motion across my neck, and nodded to the door. I turned back to the costumer and said; "That's not a problem." We left, no other contractor came to finish his work, he lost his building permit. Ended up selling at a huge loss........ moral of the story. Ignorance, Stupidity and racism can and will cost you.

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    1. Hey thanks for that Juan. I guess Ive lived in SC too long!

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  12. AMEN, I only have friends too.. I see no color or race, be my friend and I will be yours to the end.

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  13. The sad and disappointing lesson here is that everyone who reads what Chris wrote can clearly understand his message. Chris doesn't see color in people. They are his friends, period. We learn so much as children that we tend to ignore as adults. "Red and Yellow, Black or White, they are precious in HIS sight. Jesus loves the the little children of the world". Chris and I learned this in the same Sunday school. WE choose to remember it.

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    1. As did I.. I have lived my whole life by this.. A friend is a friend. Period.

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  15. The best part of this post is that it was written September 21, 2015. Meaning the writer came to this realization long before the racial climate in this country got ghis intense. I pray that all of you positively commenting on this blog will continue in this truth long after the tiki touches have been extinguished.

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    1. Thank you for reading. May God bring every race together.

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  16. I too have many friends of differing morphology, including fat )like me) and old (like me). Occasionally I am horrified when a friend relates their latest horror of being treated badly because of their skin color. My sense is that it got worse under the previous Great Divider, but the results are being blamed on the outsider President.

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  17. An admirable perspective...& certainly the ideal to which all of us should aspire...you are very fortunate that your reality & personal life experiences have afforded you the luxury of seeing the world this way...this, however, is not the case for most people, especially those of color...& to imply that their focus on race is the problem, that it's merely a matter of removing an adjective from the lexicon, is patently unfair...& irresponsible in that it attempts to take a serious, deeply-ingrained problem & reduce it to a simple matter of changing how we describe each other ....

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    1. Though not a fan of the previous administration, I want to let history, if it's not erased, be the judge. In the fast food era, we want to label so quickly. Hopefully what we're going through is a phase that gets us to open our eyes to another's plight. The youth, though very misguided, sometimes, also have so valid points. They're the most accepting group out there when it comes to diversity, whether you agree with it or not. Cost of education, crazy out of control. Health care, should this even be a debate? I hate the ACA, because of what it did to the middle class, but those less fortunate love it, we should try to understand why and fix it? We have the most diverse, compassionate & passionate country in the world, you'd think we could figure it out.

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  18. Thanks for the post. Sorry for all of the people in this world that feel the need to split hairs, correct every single little piece of data that might be just a tad off. It somehow makes them feel like they're better than you, but they're just small people that have nothing better to do that cut other people down because their own lives stink. Maybe you can pray for them Chaplain!

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    1. You are absolutely correct. Thank you.

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  20. I can appreciate the article and the message that relationships are greater than titles. I would however, challenge the reluctance in acknowledging diversity within the realms of relationships. The bible does not necessarily speak of race, but it is big on families. It mentions consistently in the narratives of the old testament generations of families. It is important to the word of God to not just have a Noah... but to acknowledge where he comes from. The bible places as much importance on where you come from as it does of where you are going. Even if the only context is identity, God makes a point to identify where his friends come from ( and to what family they belong).
    While in no way do I equate this to identifying friends by color, I do believe it is okay to acknowledge their culture. Christ isn't offended by his own word... humbly submitted

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    1. I completely agree with what you're saying, but so many people use it in a way that is not identifying people or their culture. If we as a society could just honor each other's culture it would be so easy to just move on. We are so munch more than labels. The Bible is telling the greatest story, it must identify individuals to enable the reader to follow. We need to get over ourselves and treat each other with respect and dignity. A finger in the face only creates a negative response because in today's society, EVERYONE has to be right every time they open their mouth. It's sad. Thanks, for post Mr. King, great post.

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  21. Monsoon Matriarch, my dear lady, I do believe you hit the proverbial nail on the head!

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  22. Political correctness is everything to do with people being divided based on race, sex, political party affiliation, sexual preference, etc., so Chris captured the reality of this superficial viewpoint. Even mixed race folks will not identify with any race except non-white. The political correct term for someone who is mulatto is black. In fact, it is still on the law books, which democrats passed, that if a person has "one drop" of black blood, he or she is legally black. that's the "one drop rule". We have AFRICAN American, NATIVE American, ASIAN American, INDIAN American, MEXICAN American. these are all PC terms. We stopped seeing each other as human beings but a race, even though we are all one blood and all related. So, think about that before stating this author shouldn't have used PC because it has EVERYTHING to do with it and how we see each other.

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  23. I HAVE FRIENDS OF ALL COLORS AND NATIONALITY BUT THEY ARE JUST FRIENDS. WE ALL BLEED THE SAME. IF YOU HAVE TO HAVE A BLOOD TRANSFUSION YOU DON'T KNOW WHERE THE BLOOD CAME FROM.

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  24. Well apparently you have no sense.
    Rather you're a typical drumpf voting douchebag.

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  25. I don't have a girlfriend. I have friends that are women. But we are not talking about my problems.
    I agree with the distinction made by Chris Wells. The sooner we stop labeling by unimportant characteristics, the sooner we can see people more clearly.

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    I just saw the headline on someones's wall an taughtI need to take someone to he throne to find love and decided to read, chuckle. You see Chris, I 100% understand you. I've visited Body Worlds and you know all I saw where just bodies without any colour coated. Underneath we have the same arteries, veins, muscles, organs, you name it. The whole anatomy of humankind has the same colour. The soul doesn't have a color only love, thbs up. Nice posting

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  27. Very well said... Quite, nice... (all my friends are the same), but if you were really being honest with what's really going on,that's not America... Maybe in Ur mind/world, that's true...(I don't U), NOT WHAT I SEE, OR EXPERIENCE!!!... Thank you

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  28. That's great as long as people with that worldview don't look away when they see racial prejudice in action & pretend it isn't happening.

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  29. I agree whole heartedly that is why I invite you to read my book "Guidance Against the Odds" ©2016 and visit my twitter page https://bookmystorydomain.blog/2017/08/16/a-tweet-to-the-speaker-of-the-house/

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  30. This sounds like "I don't see color" nonsense. Sorry.

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  31. I've always been like this. Plenty of people are. Not really a "new convept" also, racial tensions are not new in this world and yes, US too. It's been around for a long time. Alot of people don't to be honest. We have friends like we have families. Not sure how this is new..

    Continue to let people live and not label. It's already happening. It's been happening. Not sure how it is politics fault. It's many people who are at fault. Also, there is a difference between color and culture. Yes, as a kid most of us never thought about color; unless you lived in times of segregation; right? As you get a little older you may wonder why someone does something different then you. So, instead of saying everyone is the same, is wrong. Cultures and nations are different. It's good to learn from them. Now color, is something different. Something man uses to divide. Much different from a persons culture or even their religon.

    People judge Muslims harshly because they are Muslim. No difference right? Because they have been generalized.

    Oh, Jewish is a religion.

    This world has always been a mess. One day it will change. As humans tbough, we find so much to be superior over others. People judge homosexualsfor being gay. People may judge someone who may not make a lot of money. All that is wrong.

    Just my thoughts.

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  32. I've always been like this. Plenty of people are. Not really a "new convept" also, racial tensions are not new in this world and yes, US too. It's been around for a long time. Alot of people don't to be honest. We have friends like we have families. Not sure how this is new..

    Continue to let people live and not label. It's already happening. It's been happening. Not sure how it is politics fault. It's many people who are at fault. Also, there is a difference between color and culture. Yes, as a kid most of us never thought about color; unless you lived in times of segregation; right? As you get a little older you may wonder why someone does something different then you. So, instead of saying everyone is the same, is wrong. Cultures and nations are different. It's good to learn from them. Now color, is something different. Something man uses to divide. Much different from a persons culture or even their religon.

    People judge Muslims harshly because they are Muslim. No difference right? Because they have been generalized.

    Oh, Jewish is a religion.

    This world has always been a mess. One day it will change. As humans tbough, we find so much to be superior over others. People judge homosexualsfor being gay. People may judge someone who may not make a lot of money. All that is wrong.

    Just my thoughts.

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  33. As I read this "PC" did not even register to me. The only thing I got out of it is that we (as human beings) need to treat one another with respect and not to define each other based on our skin tone. Wonderful job Chris. I think we have all become too sensitive in today's society. Not everything is meant as a slur.

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